(This is an excerpt from a book I am working on about being creative for a living. I will post a new chapter every Friday - or as close as I can. Sorry about last week.. )
Being kicked-out, broken-up-with, hurt, humiliated - can all be great things.
Many of you have heard of Rhett Miller. He is a a great solo recording artist and the lead singer of Old 97’s. Well, back in the late 80’s Rhett was a Dallas wunderkind. He was releasing his first CD, “Mythologies” on the Carpe Diem label.
Carpe Diem was an independent label that was housed out of a tiny independent CD shop called Van Gogh Records. The owner of both, Allan Restrepo, is still a friend to this day.
Allan broke my heart.
I was amazed by this Rhett Miller phenomenon. Rhett was on the cover of our weekly paper, the Dallas Observer. The entire cover was a close-up of his face - and it was (and still is) a good-looking face. I was in awe of this high school senior. I was a freshman as SMU (across the street from Van Gogh) and I used to go in there daily. We (Jackopierce) were trying to make our first CD, so I would riddle Allan with questions - questions about producers, engineers, studios, photos, graphics, CD duplication, posters, marketing.. on and on and on. We (Jackopierce) were dreaming of making our first CD. But one day Allan had come to the end of his goodwill rope. He literally escorted me out of his store saying, “Cary - I’m kicking you out of my store. I cannot make this record for you - you’re going to have to figure it out on your own.”
I was heartbroken that my buddy and mentor kicked me out of his store. But it turned out to be one of the best things that ever happened to me. It forced me to go out there and learn how to do it myself.
Robert Kiyosaki talks about the necessity for anyone in business to have experience in sales. He says you need the experience of being rejected more than you are accepted. Really good advice. I agree. Get used to it. People reject you for a million different reasons. I’ve learned to not avoid it but overcome it.
Keep swingin.. keep going. Most folks don’t. They cower at the first sign of rejection and never go back out on the field. That leaves more room for those of us who are willing to take the licks, dust ourselves off and get back out there in the game.